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By: Steffanie Monae" February 20, 2026February 19, 2026

Uncategorizedfaith, life, mental-health, personal-growth, writing

Note to Self: DON’T LET DOUBT MOVE IN

There are seasons where you feel loud and unstoppable. And then there are seasons where you’re building quietly. Praying quietly. Hoping quietly. This week feels like one of those seasons. I’ve been pushing “One of One. The Only One.” But today, I want to pause and pour into us. Because sometimes the message we preach is the message we need.

When Progress Feels Quiet

There are moments when growth doesn’t look impressive. It doesn’t look viral. It doesn’t look applauded. It looks like discipline. It looks like showing up when you don’t feel like it. It looks like doing the next right thing. And that still counts.

Woman wearing a cream “Note to Self: Sis, You Got This!” hoodie writing in a journal at a cozy desk with a candle and coffee nearby.

The Discipline of Staying Positive

Positivity isn’t pretending things aren’t hard. It’s choosing to believe that hard isn’t permanent. It’s choosing to believe effort compounds. That consistency builds confidence. That obedience creates clarity. Staying positive is spiritual maturity. It’s emotional discipline. It’s leadership.

Positive Doesn’t Mean Passive

You can be hopeful and still hungry. You can be grounded and still ambitious. You can be faithful and still focused. Positivity is not delusion. Its direction.

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Believe in Yourself Before It Makes Sense

Believing in yourself isn’t arrogance. Its alignment. You are allowed to trust that the ideas in your head are there for a reason. You are allowed to trust that the desire in your heart is there on purpose. Growth feels uncomfortable before it feels victorious. That discomfort? That’s God stretching you.

You Are Not Behind

You are not behind. You are becoming. You are not stuck. You are stretching. You are not failing. You are refining. Read that again!

Just Put One Foot in Front of the Other

You don’t have to feel powerful to be powerful. You don’t have to see momentum to be moving. You don’t have to have proof to have purpose. Just keep going. Even if it’s small steps. Even if it’s quiet progress. Even if no one sees it yet. Because one day, what feels like discipline today will feel like destiny tomorrow.

Final Note to Self

If you’re in a season like me, building, stretching, pushing, praying, here’s your reminder:

Stay positive. Stay grounded. Stay consistent. Stay believing. You are one of one. And there has never been, and will never be, another you with this exact assignment. Keep going, sis, you got this!

If This Season Feels Quiet

If protecting your mind feels especially important right now, you might also need this reminder. Sometimes the work is loud. Sometimes the growth is quiet. I wrote more about navigating that kind of season here: 👉🏾 Staying the Course (When It’s Quiet) Because guarding your mind is one thing, staying steady when it’s silent is another.

XOXO,

Stefffanie Monae’

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Posted by:Steffanie Monae"

Hey and welcome to my Blog! My name is Steffanie Monae. I’m a San Francisco, Bay Area native and an SFSU alumnus with a Bachelors of Science degree in Fashion Merchandising and Marketing. I have over 13 Years of Fashion Styling experience and currently, work as a Personal Stylist, Fashion and Lifestyle blogger. I love being a Personal Stylist, Fashion and Lifestyle blogger because it provides me the opportunity to help women feel empowered. There are many ways to empower women and I have been blessed with the ability to do that as both a Stylist and blogger. And, for that I am thankful! Ok, enough about all the facts and professional information blah, blah, blah. Let’s talk about why this blog platform means so much to me. I grew up in Oakland, CA and became a mother to a beautiful girl in my late teen’s. Who is now a Tween! It is important to me to be a woman my daughter can always look up to. A woman who possesses drive, integrity, intelligence and so much more. I also, find it important to be a woman that can empower other women. I want to help women strive daily toward being the best version of themselves. There is so much beauty in being the women God created us to be. I hope as I continue to grow and challenge myself it will inspire other women. Throughout my life, I have had my share of ups and downs, wins and losses but in the words of the famous poet Mya Angelou, “Still I rise”. So, in theory, this blog isn’t just for you, it’s for us. This platform is a representation of me leaping. As I journey through life, my faith, family and a keen sense of style are always constant. Personal Style has been my love since forever and it is my personal, peaceful outlet. That is why a career as a Personal Stylist, Fashion and Lifestyle blogger is considered a blessing. I hope with this blog, I will inspire women through my style, advice, tips, heartfelt life stories, and experiences. Extremely grateful for the woman God continues to shape me to be! Welcome to my lifestyle! Love and Blessings, Steffanie Monae